Now I will be the first to admit…men are visual creatures. We love the sight of a beautiful woman. We need to appreciate the beauty of a woman. However, what I find myself enjoying most…is the beauty of her mind. To me, that is the first and final frontier…
Well, I'm out on a date…things are clicking.
There is chemistry…
She likes me, I like her…
We go to my place to “talk”…
We are lying together “talking”, not a word has been spoken…I stop!
Yes, that is what I said, STOP!
There are questions I have….doesn’t she have questions?
Now, here is where it gets tricky….if you want to have sex on a first date that is YOUR PREROGATIVE!
The issue here is not what happens between two consenting adults…the issue is this... are the two adults consenting?
In becoming seekers of companionship…do we blast past the courtship? Is this truly a society of “Me So Horny”?
This to me is the crux of our sexual relationship pathologies…the circle of a wedding band has driven women or should I just say it…”girls with a woman’s body” to accept an “O”(orgasm for those who don’t know) just to be accepted.
I remember, when I was young man, having to beg, borrow, cheat, and steal to get sex. However, today, in my virtual life, I have seen a disturbing shift.
I actually had a woman tell me, via the internet, that I'm making her wet online…
WTH!!!
This woman has yet to see my face or meet me and she tells me that I make her wet?
I could be a damn ugly ass troll!
This woman was pushing sex with me, while she wrote countless negative blogs about how ALL MEN WANT IS SEX!
Ladies, If what you want is the “O” of a wedding band and not the “O”…try not offering your body ASAP…try offering the possibility of being a wife instead.
Does that mean that you start to plan the wedding during the first date? No, but at least MAKE A MAN EARN YOUR LOVE!
If you have been burned, don’t go into a new forest with a torch in your hand. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. I know there are so many reasons for this situation, fatherless childhood, sexual abuse, victim of cheating, etc…However, you must rise above these demons…you have to…in order to save yourself from even more heartache.
Sleeping around will not produce love, just an orgasm (if you’re lucky), or worse, a pregnancy with a “boy who wear a man’s mask…or worse (and we KNOW there is much, much worse)
Spend time to get to know the “boy behind the mask”, so that you can RUN!!!
I have been using this question on a lot of younger people to offer some clarity…
Before you have sex with someone, can you look into the eyes of your soon-to-be-lover and say…”Yes, I want this person to share a child with me”
If you can not say yes to that question…STOP!!! It is not worth the drama and pain.
We all know that women by nature are romantics…women go back to being natural state…is it easy, hell no, it is necessary….HELL YEAH!!!
Pain comes with a price, and so should love. Make us pay that price…you are worth it.
We will love and respect you for it.
